Expert Guide to Oral Sex
One of the interesting things about this job is that I get to hear from a lot of guys about sexual difficulties that they are having.
Often one of the first questions that I ask them is simply: what do you say during sex? Usually this draws a blank stare. One consistent pattern that separates okay lovers from legends is that a lot of men get really worried about cunnilingus technique and focus on it so much on that that they forget the emotional part!
While it is useful to master the kind of tongue-twisting acrobatics that you see in most movies, this is only part of the picture and anyone who is missing either part has a disadvantage to making his woman orgasm.
The First Step: the Labia
When you first start off you can mix your focus between the labia and the clitoris. At this point her clitoris is getting aroused enough for the next step, so you need to take it slowly. Often the swelling is hard to see, so you will have to get used to calibrating yourself to her response. When she start moaning in pleasure and reaching down for you, you are doing it right!
Using the flat of your tongue, move from the bottom of the vaginal opening to the clitoris in a smooth motion. Occasionally you will mix this with kisses and sucks to the clitoris to really get her excited. Think of these motions as punctuation marks in writing: used occasionally to really give her a sudden burst of feeling!
At this point there is also a large psychological element. She wants to hear two reassurances from you: that she looks good and you enjoy giving her oral sex. Occasional moans of pleasure or actually telling her how hot she is will make a world of difference here.The whole time, watch as her clitoris responds more and more to your touch. Once she is regularly responding well to your touch it is time for stage two.
The Next Stage: Focus on the Clitoris
At this point the clitoris should push out from under the clitoral hood (The triangle of flesh directly above the clitoris). It can be extremely sensitive at this point, so you should be licking the slides and only occasionally darting your tongue across its surface.
It is also a good time to make sure that she knows that you are as turned-on as she is. Increase your state, and say whatever usually gets a good response with her. The words are not as important as being really sexual.
As you will be giving her a lot more contact at this time, you will want to tease her as well, stopping briefly to say something, until she begs you to continue. As she comes to orgasm, talk less and touch more.
The Final Stage: Clitoris only
At this point, she should be coming up to an explosive orgasm and you should be able to feel her increasing excitement. At this point her clitoris may be too sensitive to touch, so you will want to flick your tongue across the surface or side-to-side using just the tip. Whenever she reaches a peak in excitement, really suck her clitoris to blow her mind!
Sometimes the clitoris may retreat under the hood as she begins to orgasm. This is actually a good sign, so keep going as it means she will orgasm soon. The same moves can be done, only because it is under the hood, they will need to be done a little bit harder.
Often one of the first questions that I ask them is simply: what do you say during sex? Usually this draws a blank stare. One consistent pattern that separates okay lovers from legends is that a lot of men get really worried about cunnilingus technique and focus on it so much on that that they forget the emotional part!
While it is useful to master the kind of tongue-twisting acrobatics that you see in most movies, this is only part of the picture and anyone who is missing either part has a disadvantage to making his woman orgasm.
The First Step: the Labia
When you first start off you can mix your focus between the labia and the clitoris. At this point her clitoris is getting aroused enough for the next step, so you need to take it slowly. Often the swelling is hard to see, so you will have to get used to calibrating yourself to her response. When she start moaning in pleasure and reaching down for you, you are doing it right!
Using the flat of your tongue, move from the bottom of the vaginal opening to the clitoris in a smooth motion. Occasionally you will mix this with kisses and sucks to the clitoris to really get her excited. Think of these motions as punctuation marks in writing: used occasionally to really give her a sudden burst of feeling!
At this point there is also a large psychological element. She wants to hear two reassurances from you: that she looks good and you enjoy giving her oral sex. Occasional moans of pleasure or actually telling her how hot she is will make a world of difference here.The whole time, watch as her clitoris responds more and more to your touch. Once she is regularly responding well to your touch it is time for stage two.
The Next Stage: Focus on the Clitoris
At this point the clitoris should push out from under the clitoral hood (The triangle of flesh directly above the clitoris). It can be extremely sensitive at this point, so you should be licking the slides and only occasionally darting your tongue across its surface.
It is also a good time to make sure that she knows that you are as turned-on as she is. Increase your state, and say whatever usually gets a good response with her. The words are not as important as being really sexual.
As you will be giving her a lot more contact at this time, you will want to tease her as well, stopping briefly to say something, until she begs you to continue. As she comes to orgasm, talk less and touch more.
The Final Stage: Clitoris only
At this point, she should be coming up to an explosive orgasm and you should be able to feel her increasing excitement. At this point her clitoris may be too sensitive to touch, so you will want to flick your tongue across the surface or side-to-side using just the tip. Whenever she reaches a peak in excitement, really suck her clitoris to blow her mind!
Sometimes the clitoris may retreat under the hood as she begins to orgasm. This is actually a good sign, so keep going as it means she will orgasm soon. The same moves can be done, only because it is under the hood, they will need to be done a little bit harder.
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